Sara: We met when I was 26 and he was 30, which weirdly at the time felt like more of a difference to me than the money thing. They felt like museums to me. So when I found out where he lived, and how he lived, I immediately panicked. TFD: Why did you call her? What were you worried about, and what did you want her to say?
There is nothing fancy about me. When I saw his wealth I automatically assumed that he came from this extremely wealthy background, and that just the way he viewed the world would be so fundamentally different from me.
I wanted my mom to basically reassure me that I was smart and good enough, because I really wanted to be with him. Sara: Honestly, she said that any guy who was making me feel this insecure about who I was was probably not the guy for me. And she would have been right, except he never made me feel that way — it was entirely in my head. And as it turned out, he was from a very similar background to me. The townhouse, for example, was a gut-renovation he bought and fixed mostly himself, and he considered it his first real investment. Very quickly, I had to get over this idea that we would ever split things, really.
Basically any time we went somewhere, ate out, got gifts for others, etc, he would always pay in full, and tell me to put the money towards my loans. It was honestly extremely difficult for me, as someone who has been financially independent since I was Relationships October 10, In this modern digital world where sex is available with a swipe on your phone screen, taking a step back in time to more traditional values is the best way to land a wealthy husband.
But giving them easy sex is not the way to the ring. First you have to make them behave like a gentleman and cherish you. A wealthy man will never risk being embarrassed in front of his peers. Your word is your bond, particularly to busy businessmen, they have tight schedules and need to know their partner is respectful of their time. They do not have any inclination to play games and they expect the same of you. Go for big investments - like a penthouse - you can sell it if things don't work out.
And as it turned out, he was from a very similar background to me. Shappi Khorsandi. Despite the program's high ratings, it was harshly condemned as exploitative. She was soon transformed into a world-renowned gold digger when a sarcastic Wall Streeter responded to her post anonymously, using financial terms to prove that her beauty-for-money offer was a "crappy business deal. Betty Grable as Loco Dempsey.
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