I was hooked. I came to Christ at a young age and grew up in church, but there was always a dark side to me. I began feeling guilty in high school, but learned it was better not to talk about it. I thought I needed to figure it out on my own, just Jesus and me. I brought my pornography addiction with me.
I lived two lives and my shame started to grow. I took a year away from ministry to focus on restoration.
I was in despair, completely hopeless. I had tried everything and stopped believing I could be free. A chance encounter with Ted Roberts, founder of Pure Desire Ministries, resulted in my wife and me beginning his counseling and recovery program. I had finally met a Christian man who could make sense of what was happening in my life. Ted and his wife navigated us through sexual addiction counseling integrated with a biblical worldview. Now when I struggle, I understand why and have resources to help.
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The teen who's asked Christ to be Lord of his life should know that drug use can damage his 1. The Bible explicitly instructs us to refrain from getting high. Scripture It's that way with drugs and all "enjoyable" sins: Their emptiness takes us away In fact, they only give you more problems in the end. Addiction. Isolation. LDS Family Services Addiction Recovery Program has adapted the original Twelve Steps of Alcoholics .. Even though people's addictions are different.
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The change occurred as he studied and applied the principles taught in the program workbook and weekly recovery meetings. The workbook guides readers toward recovery using 12 steps, each of which addresses an essential principle of recovery such as honesty, hope, or trust in God. At the weekly meetings, participants are able to gain strength from others and share their own experiences of applying the principles. Mark learned that the journey from addiction to recovery is a difficult one, but knowing people who have already made that journey can give hope to those who struggle. Mark is now a facilitator.
Each week he shares his experiences included in this article in italics to help others understand that they are not alone and that addiction can be overcome. Please, Lord, help me. Mark was an active member of the Church. He never thought he could get trapped in an addiction. Living the standards of the Church, such as the Word of Wisdom, keeps members safe from many addictive behaviors, but in a world where harmful influences are increasingly pervasive, addiction is a growing problem, even among Latter-day Saints.
They can include gambling, pornography, eating disorders, inappropriate sexual behavior, and overdependence on another person. At any given recovery meeting, a variety of addictions may be represented. Steve, for example, was addicted to prescription drugs. He initially took medication for a back injury, but after his injury had healed, he lied and eventually stole in order to get more prescription drugs. Steve, who served as a counselor in a bishopric, ended up in jail wearing his suit one Sunday when he was supposed to be conducting sacrament meeting.
It was at that point he knew he needed help. In some locations, groups created specifically for pornography problems are available. He realized he had to change when his marriage was on the verge of falling apart. My inability to reconcile my testimony with my behavior, along with my inability to forsake my addiction, put me in a place where the shame was unbearable. Finally I was willing to try something different.
Some people decide on their own to come. Others are encouraged to attend by friends or priesthood leaders. Some have been ordered by a court of law to attend step recovery meetings. Many are reluctant to attend a meeting because they feel ashamed of their struggle. In her work as a Church-service missionary, Suzanne marvels to see the change that comes over the participants. They are embarrassed and filled with guilt and fear.
After a few weeks their heads lift up with newfound hope. Church-service missionaries are ready to welcome participants and offer them hope and encouragement. Participants focus on a different step from the workbook each week, and the facilitator shares his or her own experience with that step.
Those who wish to share their thoughts on recovery introduce themselves by their first names only. A meeting always includes a reminder of the principles of anonymity and confidentiality, which are critical to fostering a safe atmosphere. An important aspect of the meetings is that participants are in a setting where they can feel the Spirit again. They can say a prayer and bear testimony, even if their choices have led to their being disfellowshipped or excommunicated. This spiritual environment is a source of great strength to participants as they focus on the 12 steps.
Working the steps of this program simplified the gospel in a way that I could apply the testimony I had always had. As Mark discovered, the steps of the addiction recovery program are a systematic way of implementing gospel principles.