Neither is right and neither is wrong. Both are exactly as they should be, since both are true to the writer.
Just Write It When you're writing a love letter, you need to get out of your way and just write it. This sort of writing should be the least filtered piece of writing you can do. The typos, the redundant wording, the oddly placed commas, those are all irrelevant. They are secondary, an afterthought, after you're done crafting the power of your message.
This message, in whatever words you end up using for yourself, essentially says: you're immensely important to me and I just wanted to let you know that, because I could not spend another moment not confessing this to you. Open the gates, let the heart pour itself across the page. It's a great unburdening, the best of all kinds.
A love letter helps you breathe easier, that's for sure. Ignore Everyone Else The editor in you will want to tear apart your letter.
It will criticize, minimize, or ridicule you. If you listen to that cranky old hag you'll never write anything that is pumped with life by your soul. Don't listen to it, basically because that voice is not yours. It was created by everyone else, but what "people say. These people say that if you're a man, and don't spend your days wearing black turtlenecks, you have no business writing sappy things like these. These people say that you are way too emotional and you kind of need to tone it down, because you make people uncomfortable.
These people are letting you know what the "right way" of doing things is, so pay attention If you've read my stuff enough you know that I believe that complete bullshit.
There's no right way, there's only the way that work for you. You must ignore these voices! At all times and with all things.
Writing this kind of letter is simply an example of how frustrating and limiting listening to other people's definition of "right" or "success" or "normal" can be. People who have these opinions and need you to abide by them are, quite simply, bullies. Ignore the bully, and you take away their power. Human beings create a crowd, not the other way around. It's not simply a proclamation of love.
I've experienced that the most powerful love letters are those where you reveal yourself in every single way. The good and the bad. I've done this with my lady various times. I don't just tell her how much she means to me, how much I'm renewed by her laugh and smile and love, but I also tell her how imperfect I am.
My concerns, my doubts, and my caution. The ways in which I am still selfish, and the dark thoughts that cloud everything else from time to time. I list the times I've failed her, and the fear I have that I will fail her once more, many times over. This is not simply a proclamation, but a confession. It contains both my appreciation for her, and my brokenness, my imperfect state of affairs. Love letters are life-changing because it's one of the few times when you can muster up that ultimate courage that comes with being vulnerable.
It's you dropping your pants and taking off your shirt and saying, "This is me, sometimes it's good, sometimes it's bad, but I promise that I'll always try my best. Nobody is anywhere near perfect. Even that guy who runs around the neighborhood at 5 a. But few of us like to admit that. It's hard to say those things, I know it is for me. But when you do, and when you admit this to the person you love in a way that is uplifting, in a way that says, I know this and promise to be my best for you, you build one of the most human connections of all: that between two authentic and honest people.
Start Today In the letters I've written I can say that one thing always, without fail, happens. I breathe a lot easier. I feel like a rush of fresh, cool air has filled my lungs and has lessened my load. Maybe we will all feel this way once we put down on paper, for the rest of the world to see, what we've often held for just ourselves.
Maybe that's the unburdening of being selfish with our heart beats. Sharing yourself is one of the most selfless things you can do, and this counts as that. Once I've shared my thoughts with my loved one, I feel renewed. Like we finished writing a chapter, and are turning the page to start what's next. Here's how: grab a blank page and write at the top, "Dear name of the person or thing you're dedicating this to. I just wanted to let you know I love you with all that I am. That's a love letter. You want it everywhere, but you definitely want it to be the last thing.
It really comes down to saying, "My world is better because you are in it. Do we stick with the emotions or should we incorporate something about how great the sex is? You don't want to overdo the sex stuff. Safe to say if your chemistry is off the charts, I definitely wouldn't get into anything sexual or graphic because at the end of the day if a couple is having great sex then they already know that.
When you're dealing with a love letter, come from real place of affection instead of "You're hot in your lacy nightie.
You want to walk away and have your whole body tingle because someone loves you for who you are and they want you in their world. Oh, gosh. I got a love letter signed off from someone that said "I love you to the moon and back. I don't know, I just thought it was this very sweet image. Don't write a love letter if you haven't said "I love you" yet.
If you haven't said those three words, you're going to spook someone. They say men actually say "I love you" and fall in love faster than women. Doing it for Valentine's Day is great if you've already talked about those feelings, but if you're casually dating someone you're going to spook her. If a woman got a letter like that on Valentine's Day, it could be an uncomfortable feeling. Then the response, at best, is "I'm flattered but I don't feel that way. Maybe I'll catch up! Where can I look for inspiration to write my love letter? Like, the greatest love letter of all time? Read some poetry, you know?
But really, just be yourself. Sometimes people take poetry and copy-and-paste it. If you're going to write a love letter and you're missing that person, what do you say? Men fall in love with women when they're apart.
So think to yourself "What do I miss most about this woman while she's not with me? Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you.
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I gave her a mix CD. She was very polite about it. Romance does not come easily to many of us. How do we express ourselves? Is this from a man to a woman or a woman to a man? Uh, man to a woman Evergreen or for Valentine's Day? Let's go with evergreen. That sounds more useful. How do I do that? Let's get personal. What's the best love letter you ever got? Help us tell more of the stories that matter from voices that too often remain unheard.
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