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I remember be conflicted about this because on the one hand he told me about her but gotta say my gut just kinda tensed at his dishonesty with the secret phone. Initially he would answer her calls even if I was around and they would chat maybe minutes. She usually would carry on about horrible her boyfriend was to her and so forth.
He would console her, tell her she deserved better. My gut gave me no reason to worry… and I have known the code to his phone almost from day one. About a year into our relationship he showed me a text she sent him. We are just friends!! Well, he really said nothing, just kind of shrugged his shoulders and said she was fine… And my gut still did not give off any bells or whistles… So fast forward to the end of June Is everything alright? There was one phone conversation between them that lasted for one hour and 45 minutes….!!! Usually they were around 45 — 50 minutes…. You are my best friend in the whole world!!
I finally had to ask him about a week later if he had spoken with her. I told him I will NOT share my man physically or emtionally…. And yet, here I am…. Is the affair just emotional and nothing more? Who knows? What I DO know is that what he is or is not doing is not the only issue here. So now the only question is: what are you going to do about it? Can you trust him even if he does? You said that in your youth you would have stood up for yourself. You do! The ONLY person you can control is yourself. So you might get farther trying to figure out why YOU are willing to settle for this kind of a relationship rather than spending your time trying to figure out what HE is doing.
PS: Working with a good therapist might help a lot. My husband and I have been married for 6 years but have known each other for 13 years. My 2nd marriage and his 3rd. We were very close friends before starting our relationship. I have never been happier. We were best friends and we never fight. We are able to talk on the phone all the time because he is a local truck driver.
A few days ago I caught a glimpse of his pictures in his phone while he was sending his buddy a text. I waited till he was in the shower the next morning and looked on his phone to confirm what I thought I saw. Sure enough, he had 2 pictures of a woman that he had taken recently. She was fully clothed and you could tell that she was at work. I was crushed. I confronted him right away without thinking. He said it was innocent and she was just a friend. I called him a liar and he left for work. I figured out that she works at the truck wash that he goes to at least once a week.
He also parks his truck next door. Sometimes calling 2 or 3 times a day. The conversations are usually less than 5 minutes at a time but sometimes they have lasted for about 45 minutes or so. He calls her alot when he first leaves the house in the morning but thats not the only times. We have talked and he maintains that they are just friends and he gets a kick out of talking to her.
When I said that I was going to go talk to her, he got really angry and defensive. That is the only time I have seen any emotion out of him during this whole situation. Even when I was crying, he just ignored me. I do just about anything he asks and I tell him everything. I had complete trust and faith in him. I feel stuck and alone. Thank you. But the fact that he will still see her is harder. He did something and hid it from you. If he really thought there was no problem with what he ws doing, why did he hide it?
Why did he get defensive when you said you were going to go talk to her? Why does he have pictures of her body parts on his phone? Now, whether your husband is willing to change and put all this behind him forever, who knows? But unless and until you can rebuild your trust in him and in your relationship, you will suffer and the relationship will not grow. Unless and until he understands the effect that his behavior had on you, he is not likely to change it. The good news is that, if you do it, you can absolutely put your marriage back on the right track.
I believe my wife is having an affair. She is on meetme type apps reaching out to anyone and everyone who is willing to talk to her. She is doing things in secret, leaves the house for hours and does not tell anyone where she is going. One time I followed her to a hotel and when i confronted her she had a possible legitamit reason why she went there for 2 hours. Her interest in me is lost. She wants space and unconditional freedom to see who she wants and do what she wants, even though she knows I am against it.
A friend said I should kick her out so she can figure it out, do i have the right to do that? Should I let this play out? Or start the pursuit of divorce? It hurts so bad. To get an answer to that you need to consult with a good divorce attorney in your area. What I can tell you is that gettinga good therapist for yourself right now can help you sort out your emotions so that you can move forward in your life.
Hi Karen, Thank you for exposing the real pain of emotional affairs. I never knew he had a female co-worker, in the same position, and who is his exact age. I never heard a word about her, until about 7 months after he started working there. We even go to the same OB. Until one day, it just hit me. Something just clicked in my heart, and I felt so betrayed. I confronted him, he denied any feelings at all, and I told him I want to enjoy my pregnancy, like he should, and stop thinking about hers.
Then randomly, I thought to ask him if he has her phone number. He did. He said she gave him her number, and he texted her to give him hers. I asked to see those text messages, so a day or so later my husband gave me his phone. Conveniently, those dates of texts are deleted. I know with his phone, he has to delete messages to get new ones. But during that exact time frame? So anyways, now, 5 months into our pregnancies, my husband tells me she still will approach him and start to talk about her pregnancy, and he says he will just give her one word answers or walk away.
I feel depressed, because in the beginning of my pregnancy, all he could talk about or think about was hers. Do you think my husband began to get too close to her? I feel like my feelings for my husband have changed since this. I never worried about him cheating on me, I never thought I had to.
Now I find myself doubting everything about him and our relationship. I wish I could just enjoy my pregnancy. Heck, me and this coworker will probably be giving birth at the hospital at the same time. This is so hard for me, especially right now.
Please help. Thank you for your thoughts! Are your fears well-founded? A marriage counselor can help you with all that. Sadly, by all accounts and based on your narrative itself, it is the end of the road for you and your partner. You may not want to share your man with another woman but your man willingly and knowingly shared himself with this other woman. Am sorry to say this, but, until when are you willing to suffer? Let him go. He is already madly in love with the other woman.
A couple of months ago I walked into the garage and he quickly clicked off of something and when I confronted him and asked him for his phone he quickly cleared something out. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, he was traveling and making his way back on Friday. I knew he was going to drive a couple of hours and stop for the night then make his way the next day to visit some old high school friends and see a show.
When he got home Sunday morning I checked his wallet for his receipts which I never do. Sure enough the receipt from the restaurant he was in Friday night clearly showed two people had dined 2 entrees, 6 drinks, and an appetizer. I confronted him with it and long story short I discovered he had met this woman at a concert over the summer. What they had I would constitute as an emotional affair via a business networking website. I became an absolute banshee, I researched the woman, her husband etc. I contacted her husband just to confirm that she had come home Friday night but he could not confirm it because he was on vacation.
The husband and I texted back and forth I relayed to him everything I was told. My husband told me that he was breaking all lines of communication. I believed him but was still devastated that they had this relationship since July of We were on the mend I thought until I asked him if he had contacted her and he said yes, just to make sure she was OK when her husband came home on Monday.
When my husband said he had contacted her I asked him if I could read the email he sent and her response. Anyway, my husband showed me the supposed email he sent to her and said he had deleted her response. I discovered a way to retrieve all of his deleted emails. He said he did this because he was fearful for her and wanted to make sure she knew what was discussed.
I, however, saw it as a way to get their stories straight. My husband swears nothing physical happened. They met in July, had this ongoing communication through the business networking site he deleted all those messages, btw and saw her for the first time 2 weeks ago when they had dinner. My question for you is: should my husband let me read all the correspondence between them if we can get them from the woman?
I understand that you might not want to get counseling. But a good counselor can help you understand what happened and WHY it happened. Whether you stay together or not, having that kind of knowledge can help you immensely as you move forward in life. But, maybe it would help to ask yourself this question: If you did see all that correspondence, would it change anything? Other than increasing your pain, and giving you more information that you can use to torture yourself with, what does sharing that correspondence do?
At this point, you want to do what you can to STOP the pain. Karen, How do I recover from an online emotional relationship my husband had a year ago? We have settled our differences, my husband has been fulfilling all his promises no contact with the woman, etc , he has been a devoted husband by all accounts and very repentant, but how come a year after, when I see a trigger scene on TV about a philandering husband, how innocent online interaction can lead to infidelity, etc I get emotional and make side comments about, I pity that suffering wife, must be very hard on her like what I went through… or Dad — you shd watch and listen, to learn… etc.
Is this normal? Usually, my husband would just keep quiet. Should we see a marriage counselor? Can you advise me techniques on how to avoid being emotional about it? How can I forget such betrayal? Is it really difficult to forget? I hope other women can share their own experiences so I can lean from them as well. Getting over betrayal IS hard!
What hurts is the betrayal of your trust. Marriage counseling would be a good option for working through all this.
You need a safe space where you can openly express your feelings and work through them. You also need, with your husband, to learn how to re-build the trust that his emotional affair damaged. Doing that is entirely possible. A good marriage counselor can help you do exactly that. You might also want to consider individual counseling as well. While the marriage counselor can help you work on your relationship, an individual therapist can help you work on your own emotional reactions and your emotional triggers.
It became emotional when she revealed to him she had siezures and asked him to help her keep it a secret from management. We were having sex one night when he rolled over and was crying because he felt so special that she chose him to confide in. They had worked together for years. She is married and had 2 children. After this revelation I was very hurt and began by being understanding. Then we would take rides, going to a close lake to find their boat, binoculars out to try to find her.
They spent lots of alone time in a work truck, they were battling management together. When she was in the hospital he drug me there and I sat in the waiting room while he was in her room, he would take me to work parties and sit with her and her friends and ignore me. Was I pissed and hurt, oh hell yes! This went of for 20 years, and yes I feel like an idiot! Her husband hated him and there were rumors about them around the office which I found out about. Then we were building a new house blocks from here, a neighbor asked me why there were two power company trucks in my driveway for an hour today….
I flipped out! He stopped talking about her all the time, but was still in the emotional affair with her, and would sheepishly mention her at times. When we moved in the house he wanted to have a party, inviting ppl from work. No one came, but her…without her husband! This woman had no interest in him sexually, I know that, but she was using him and he loved it and it just destroyed our Marriage any love I ever had for him. I found an old love, we fell in love all over again and I divorced my husband. The ex was also a very verbally abusive man , I walked on eggshells my whole marriage.
When I left he keeps telling our adult kids I walked out because of his innocent friendship, so I could marry this new man. There is so much more to the story, but it would take forever to type it all. This was a 50 yr marriage, I took so much the last 20 yrs to keep my family going, kids, grandkids.. I coulda stand being in the same room with him and his negativity, fault finding, tantrums, being blamed for everything, never living up to his standards…I am happy now, but this is still on my mind…. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it must have been hard to leave — and it probably still is.
Healing takes time. But if you keep working on it, slowly but surely that, too, will come. Meanwhile, hang in there! Working dad, working mom versus cheating spouse, get all you need against a cheating spouse in this informative article. I recently learned that my husband bought a secret cell phone a year ago. I saw a transaction from a phone company on our bill and when I asked him about it he told me it was for work for international calls. I let it go, but then started googling the company and found out that that company does not support international calls.
The app that we use to keep track of our finances — he deleted all the transactions every month. He has had a secret 3rd he has a personal and work cell phone that he must leave at work. We previously had a fight over him texting and meeting up with a former ex. I confronted him when I saw an email where he had reserved a hotel room to meet his ex. But I have a screenshot of the email confirmation in his trash. Please advise! So far your husband has lied about having a cell phone, actively goes into your financial app and deletes the bill every month , reserved a hotel room somewhere, and might have been meeting up with a former ex and lying about it!
Whatever he is doing is very intentional and consistent.
I know you may not want to see that or believe it. If you want to save your marriage, and your husband agrees to go to marriage counseling with you, that would be a fabulous idea. You need to clear the air and start being honest with each other. You can continue to live as you are, without expecting your husband to change. That may mean pursuing a divorce, or at least a trial separation. But it sounds like you already know something is going on, Your husband may be good to you, but is this the kind of marriage you want?
I still cannot comprehend it but my husband got involved into immotional affair as well. He is highly moral, honest and sensitive person. We have been married for 10 years, no kids but mortgage and beautiful house. He told me 2 weeks ago that he started to talk to this girl from work after he kissed her on xmas party n she pushed him away. She offered a drink, he said yes n we we go… after 2 months of txting and phone conversations behind my back he is totally hooked up- he says that she fulfils all his emotional craving and intimacy is just as he always wanted. To be honest, we drove apart for the last two years, ex was rare, cause he would winge about my body and lack of sex and romance… he said he did not look for this relations, it just happen n they feel extremely guilty.
But in his eyes she is nice kind person, and he knows her really well thou sawherafew times. It devastated me, I never had such pain in my life! We talked about it a lot, I booked a counselling. Day before it, he had a drink with his brother and when cane back home we had a talk. He told me not to have high hopes for counselling cause he is intensely attracted to her and not textin her for a daymakeshim phisically sick. He said that these feeling cannot be wrong as it feels so right, but us are wrong. It ripped myheart, I felt I lost him. I could keep that night, I had awful panic attack which made him really angry.
Next day wasawful, counselling was awful, she basically said that they happy to help us to end our relationships. He was happy to continue but I on this stage could not deal with pain. I told him to go to her and live with her, I knew he would burn himself and regret, butitwas the only way out.
He had to understand his feelings. So he was gone. He did not go to her she lives with her boyfriend, they have mortgage too , she blocked me on Facebook I know her name and age 25 agains my husbands 33 after I mentioned her name to him. We still in good contact, he cares a lot about me, we always had a very caring relations. I feel like my whole life went down, I need him. I try to keep contact and be nice, but I really need him. Do I have a chance still?
The only one who knows if you have a chance is your husband. The truth is that being needy is not attractive! The best thing you can do for yourself, and for your relationship, is to become stronger and more independent. If you need your husband emotionally, get a therapist and start working on dealing with your emotions. But feeling like you NEED him is not the best.
Plus, your neediness may actually drive him away. Can your relationship survive this? You and your husband have a lot to sort out. If he is willing, I would strongly suggest that you start working with a marriage counselor. That can help a lot. I just confirmed my suspicions recently about my wife of 18 years having an emotional affair. I thought that perhaps it was because I was on the road for work or that it was because of the financial stress we had placed ourselves under.
I went through our phone records and found that she had been texting another man anywhere from to texts in a month. She has also been on the phone with him on a consistent basis with conversations ranging from 5 minutes up to 4 hours. They would talk almost every day when I was gone for work. These calls seem to happen at all hours of the day, along with the texts. Calls would be made up until 2 a. When I confronted her about this, she got rather defensive and stated that they are only friends.
I told her that it was not appropriate and that it needed to stop. After several low-key discussions, she finally put an end to it and told him not to text or call her anymore. We have been trying to move forward with our relationship, but I keep being consumed with SO many thoughts. What did they talk about? What pictures were exchanged? What does he know about my wife and our relationship? Is she still in contact with him? She has a work cell, a work phone, work email, and personal email…all of which I have no access too. The other man does live a LONG ways away.
They met at a work convention and he is a customer of the company she works for. What do I do to move forward??? I know that might not be what you want to hear! Cheating is cheating. An emotional affair is a betrayal of trust. Whether your wife ever slept with this guy or not is not what matters most at this point. What she did hurt you. You need to deal with that pain, and repair the relationship, if you want to move forward in a sustainable way. Working with a marriage counselor can help the two of you explore what happened to your marriage, and figure out what each of you you has to do to repair the damage and rebuild trust.
It will take time and it will take work. You have to work on your marriage. She has to work on your marriage. He lived a long way away when she was spending hours talking to him on the phone. Monte, Just friends? Rosalyn, Thank you for sharing your story. I am glad too that you were able to settle your differences. You see, he is very active in our local church and very respected. I told him — would you like your orgmates to know the details of what you did?
Would you like me to share with all your relatives here and abroad your immorality? Would you like to lose everything you have now? It woke him up! But it does get better. Hi Karen. My husband and I have been having some issues for the past couple of months. We have a mutual friend who has two children we have 2 and one on the way and he has been spending a lot of time with our friend and her sons. Have a conversation. This person was an idiot, and had recently contacted me because she wanted to sell her crappy product in my store.
Nosy, sneak-stop snooping!!! By now I am extremely suspicious. He screams that I will not control who he will be friends with. I respond that he is hurting me. You are having an affair. I respond that the fact that he would choose to hurt me rather than say goodbye to her says a lot about how deep he is in. He did this constantly for the next two weeks. He was deeply sorry he hurt me — Problem is I cannot get this out of my head. It has been over for 14 months. But, it is over because I put a block on her from every social aspect — MY trust is shattered.
A lot of things she posts news items, memes, jokes — co-incidentally he also posts — is this a coincidence or are they in contact, am I paranoid…how do I get this out of my head. There are so many crazy things I have done since I found out, I am not sure who I am anymore…. What your husband may not understand is that emotional infidelity is still infidelity! It can hurt just as much as a physical affair. You asked how you can regain your trust in him.
In order to regain trust you BOTH need to work on your marriage! HINT: Working with a good marriage counselor who has experience working with infidelity can help a lot! That may not seem fair to you since HE is the one who was talking with another woman. Even still, every marriage involves two people. If you want your marriage to survive, and if you want to put this affair behind you so that you can be happy again, both of you will need to work on your marriage.
Your husband needs to work to earn your trust back, and you need to learn to forgive him. Forgiving him does not mean excusing his bad behavior. You also might want to check out this post on surviving infidelity. It has a lot of tips in it that might help. I strongly suggest you start working with a therapist so that you can deal with what happened and heal from it. Getting all this out of your head will take time and work. You need in-depth conversations over a period of time in order to start making sense of how you feel and getting to the point where you can trust again.
Working with a therapist is your best bet for dealing with this. In a relationship for almost 3 years and engaged for 1 year. My fiance and I were having issues getting along and I noticed he was always on social media and when I saw on his phone that he was texting other women and he told one woman he always had a crush on her and he wanted to spoil her I was furious! But I will say that human behavior is consistent. If your fiance is really serious about making things right, then you might want to go to couples counseling with him. Hi Karen, I thought maybe you could give me some advice on my current situation.
I am 38 now This was about a month ago and we started texting each other on Facebook a lot and then it turned into texting actual phones then calling and talking for hours a day. This has all been in the span of a month but the talking on the phone only began a week ago. We plan to meet up soon to get lunch. He was maxing out credit cards for an addiction legal but so stupid not going to get specific but he spent over 10k without telling her and I guess they have just been having tons of problems in all aspects of the relationship and a lot of them have been going on for a while and she has told him she wanted a divorce before we ever started talking again.
I identify because I was in a relationship for 14 years married 8 of those years and i have been through some of the same things she is going through and I am able to give her advice sometimes. She is pretty damn smart though so she usually knows more about it than me. So my questions are. Should I meet up with her in person remember she is what I consider a friend and not just a girlfriend.
I really like this girl I may love her I think at least I could get to that point easily. BUT is it because she has already asked for a divorce and does not sleep in the same room as him that I feel what I am doing is okay? I only had her for the shortest of times when I was a kid but it was amazing and I have never pined over anyone liked I have over her nor have I remembered so much about someone that was so far removed from my life. I get a feeling everyone is going to tell me this is a bad idea but I feel like I have to at least see her in person once again to see how I feel when I see her.
Call me old fashioned if you want, but married is married. If this woman was already living separately from her husband and had been living separately for a long time! They rarely end well! That may make her feel guilty about leaving him. She also may end up going back and forth and trying to reconcile with him for the sake of the kids. OR, 2 he learns about you and decides that she was having an affair with you and THAT caused her to want a divorce. Then you get sucked into their drama too. What are you going to do if her divorce takes years?
Are you prepared to deal with that? What if she needs money to get through her divorce? Are you willing to support her financially? You have a daughter. What do you want to teach your daughter about marriage and relationships? Kids learn by what they see their parents doing, NOT by what their parents say. Being in love feels fabulous! But if your love is real, it will still be there after your friend is divorced. She is still married. The relationship she has right now probably seems amazing to both of you. I know that one hurt. If you want a real, honest, open relationship with someone, then you have to find someone who is in a position to have that with you.
Maybe someday it will be. But not now. But, since you asked …. PS Should you meet her in person? Your choice. Sending nude pics and all. Part of me wants to confront him now but I also feel I should drag this out and see what else is going on. We do have three teenage kids and we both feel the pressure raising them at the moment however overall they are good kids with good grades. My head is wanting to go straight to divorce!!!
I feel insecure right now and have no trust in him. What do I do….. I forgot to mention that I have discussed with my husband my issues with him and messaging girls. He plays music in his spare time and also song writes so connects to a lot of people in the industry. Things got better but since the weekend I noticed a few signs and hence I tapped into his messenger. I know that doing that is hard. But stop for a moment and ask yourself why? At this point, you know what you need to know. So, what to do? Find out if he wants to go to marriage counseling. Find out if he wants a divorce. And start working with a therapist or a coach to figure out if you want a divorce.
If you think your husband will start hiding financial documents if he knows you want a divorce, then make a copy of all of your important documents BEFORE you tell him that you know about his affair s. Get a therapist. Find a marriage counselor in case you two decide to work on your marriage. Figure out your financial state.
Start learning about divorce. Thanks for your help! I confronted him and initially, he denied everything for a good 3 minutes. I stayed calm throughout the process and kept pressing and eventually he caved in. I know the whole story and we have since blocked this woman out of our lives. My husband is a nice person to everyone so if someone keeps messaging him with open questions he will always respond.
I think he also had a texting addiction through work as he is going through a bit of a mid-life crisis in his job and obviously at home so texting everyone is what got him through his days. He wants to stay in the marriage and do whatever it takes to keep me. He said he has had a huge wake-up call and such a big scare he thinks he has lost me. He thinks it will make us stronger and he said he is going to start thinking with his head and not with his you know what anymore.
I can see he is trying but I keep asking — I wonder how long this will last? It did not turn physical with this woman but he was turned on by her as she is into woman bi-sexual and she thinks I am attractive so the thought of me and this woman together sparked interest with him. Not sleeping with her but the thought of it all.
He said it was all just shits and giggles and both of them said they were happily married just it was sexual fantasy crap. BUT here is the thing I am most hurt about. He told her about it. He even asked for more photos of her. And when she was sick in bed once he asked how she was and she sent a photo of her in bed with a cover over her. He told this woman he meant every word in his messaging so to me, he was real with his words.
My husband said he is going to man up and own it and he has to live with this for the rest of his life. But basically, he has this sexual fantasy of me and another woman together not a threesome as such just the thought of watching me with a girl. I am not into girls. I am so confused and think our sex life has been a whole lie this whole time. I am also so angry he shared intimate details with her. I do think that maybe it would have turned physical down the track — he said it would have never but who knows. How do I get over this? Do you think I should stay or run for the hills?
I can hear how conflicted you are about what has happened. Because of that, I strongly suggest that both of you start seeing a marriage counselor. You need to deal with the hurt, the harm and the betrayal that you feel. He needs to deal with the fact that he did what he did. If you both want to have the best chance of working things out, both individually and together, using a good therapist can help a lot. As for his sexual fantasies, people like what they like. It sounds like you feel so betrayed by him that you are wondering whether your whole sex life has been a lie.
But I can certainly understand how you feel. They met at a bonfire ,found out they had a lot of the same interests. He cooked for her ,as i came home from a long day at work just sat down in our home they pop in for a min and he told me he announced he was her escort to a wedding and reception ,off they went i just sat there and cried, She calls he goes ,we have fights he talks to her about them, She uses him I tried tellling him that ,but he didnt care. I told him i thought he was having a emotional affair with her He said she did give him back his spark and was filling his needs I told him i didnt want him to see her any more ,he again said they were JUST FRIENDs and he was going to contuie to see her.
He was attentive to her what ever she needed he got her ,What about me, His wife. Did he stop seeing her NO, He keeps going back for more. He told me that he told her that he has feelings for her romantic feelings ,SHE told him Hes married she should of stopped there and kicked him out but she went on talking to him ,they stayed away from each other for awhile , but i think they are still seeing each other. Emotional affair he had Physical one i dont know He swears he hasnt had sex with her But to much has happed I dont trust him He broke my trust, he broke me.
We were thinking about a trial seperation something just between us , I thought it may be a good idea I would like to see who i am and what i can do with out him , get to know me, fix things in me My husband told me he wants a separation so he can do what he wants with who ever he wants and not have to report back to me. I have to work out something that is going to work for me , Any successions? First, let me clarify. A trial separation is NOT an excuse for two people to do whatever they want outside of their marriage without dealing with the problems that are IN their marriage!
But then, why stay married? Second, whether your husband has gotten physical with this other woman or not is not the point. You told him it upsets you. You asked him to stop. He refused. His behavior is telling you that he cares more about her than about you.
That speaks volumes about the state of your marriage. Can you put your relationship back together at this point? Do you want to put it back together? What I do know that a trial separation where he gets to do whatever he wants while you hang out and wait for him is probably not the best way to get your marriage back on track.
I found my fionce was on Instagram and twitter talking to women. He called them babe and told them personal stuff even showed them pictures of his kids. Told them they get him and there so much alike. Said he missed them asked how there day was. And when confronted he said it was along time ago we have been together for 4 years this was 3 years ago. I hurt so bad. This hurts more than a physical affair. My heart has never hurt so bad. And it was in the begging of relationship, I thought everything was fine and I made him happy.
The pain is unbearable , reading comments of him telling a girl he misses her cute little booty. When he says that to me I feel so used. What do I do. I want to just disappear. I wish I could make the pain go away. What I can do is tell you 2 things. Find a good therapist. But you need someone to talk to. Someone who understands relationships and psychology. He was flirting with other women and then he turns it around and tries to blame you.
Do NOT marry this man unless and until you work through this issue completely and get your relationship back on solid ground. I find myself here because of how I feel and I googled my feelings. Admittedly my wife is very open about her accounts and phone. I have access to it all and she has access to all of my stuff and phone. I am usually really open to letting her live her life and not keeping tabs on her interactions, but we had an issue at the beginning of our relationship before marriage — been together 5 years married since November where she was SnapChat friends with an old ex and they were talking back and forth.
It blew up and she agreed to delete him and stop talking. Then a few weeks ago I found myself on her phone while she was in the other room and looked at her SnapChat. She is talking to this guy I have never heard about. Sinking gut feeling. Who is this? Doing some quick laungchair forensics, I found out they are also FB friends. He lives in an area that my wife was a few weeks prior when she visted her sister at college.
I knew she went out with her sister and they met some guys, but it was just some normal banter and drinks. They all knew she was married and her sister is taken. And I actually believe her and would expect that if anything else happened, her sister would have told me I could be wrong. She has not mentioned this to me. So I have just let it simmer and kept my eye on it.
But it is SC! All I see is that the interact. SC covers and deletes everything. What are your thoguhts? Should I still approach her or keep my eye on it until the day where he messages her while it is obvious and I can check it right then and there and see if it is appropriate and if not then call her out? It usually happens that way. You will look like a mad man because your reaction will be completely out of proportion to whatever it was that finally made you blow.
So, will it suck that you have to tell your wife you were spying on her? PS If you want, having a good marriage counselor help you through these difficult conversations can help a lot! I found your page and it has some great advice and points. I have been with my wife for 21 years and recently had our 16 year anniversary. I have to admit, she has spoiled me all my life. So much so, she does almost everything but the yard work. Unfortunately, I let my marriage go on cruise control the last few years.
We dont have kids so, it was something my wife put up with. The last few years, I didnt communicate with her, hardly go out on dates on our own and never asked how I can help her. She is going thru a divorce and needed a place to stay on the weekends. Of course, we opened up our home to her to help. Over the last few months, they were spending more and more time together.